A Short but Informative Guide to Anal Play

Everyone is obsessed with penetration, and why not? It has been wired into our brains by social media, books, and porn; it also feels like we are actually having sex. Gay sex is riddled with the same predicament, which very often leads to a lack of sex life.

Ass play paves the way for more involving sex and could be the small step to mind-blowing sex for both parties. For many people, this is nothing out of the ordinary, hence the cry for help, especially by bottoms in gay relationships, for more action and creativity as far as intimacy goes.

Knowing Thyself

What’s good for the goose is not always good for the gander when ass play is involved. Not all gay people are the same. So, not everything you’ve done with partners from your favourite gay hookup sites or wherever will always fly with every other gay. Being gay is amazing, so find out what you like. Every gay is as unique as his sexuality. So, understanding and accepting what you can do as well as what you’re willing to try during ass play really sets the tone for a great experience every time.

Getting Started

Gay sex can be whatever one can conjure up. As a gay person, your knowledge of personal sexuality usually comes down to whether you’re a bottom or a top and what goes where. Ass play involves hands, mouth, as well as a ton of other little helpers, from plugs to ropes and whatever tickles your fancy.

For a newbie, it’s always good to research, preferably with your gay partner, about what feels inadequate and what best suits that need. Tinkering with your butt might be unfamiliar, but it doesn’t have to be a giant pain in the ass.

Relax, Take it Easy!

Ass play or butt stuff takes some getting used to in the beginning, particularly if it’s new ground to you. Take it easy, play some chill music and let loose – literally. Many gays have found they actually like some of the things they were squeamish about before. Slow and easy is a rule of thumb before you can wade into kinkier ass play waters. Then there’s the bonus of being a fast learner who can’t get enough of the new routine.

Lube It Up

As a gay dude, your bottom does not self-lubricate like a pussy. Ass play involves a whole lot of touching in that region. Having lube on the ready is a good idea both at home and on the go for your Grinder date. It makes things easier during play and gay sex a more pleasurable experience for everyone involved. There are more toys for ass play than can fit in this wonderful manual, so lube is definitely on top of the naughty list where any of them are involved.

Cleaning House

Gay people know only too well the fragility of navigating things in the bedroom, and keeping it all tidy is no walk in the park. As if regular sex isn’t busy enough, ass play, be it with fingers or of the oral kind, will graciously ask that you try to keep things as neat as you can.

Truth be told, not all gay people enjoy penetration, so ass play is a great substitute. If you’re into biting and sucking, you definitely want to keep things spotless and easy to lick all over.

What Kind of Potato Are You

Really though, being a gay man comes with its share of pressure, and who needs all of that. For gay guys, just emerging from the closet society seems to nudge us to do everything at once and dive into being a ‘true’ gay person. This is all hogwash for ass play.

You and only you set the tone for yourself. Sure, we all want to be as bold as Lil Nas X and drop all the gay on the floor, but everything comes with practice and steady commitment. Exploring the finer edges of your gay identity and living your best life comes down to loving yourself wholly and those around you.

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